tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45489746794671817342024-03-18T20:22:05.895-07:00Marriage, Media & MayhemI'm a writer, editor, newlywed, mother and PR maven. I think the title of this blog covers the aspects of my life: family, writing and promotion, and everything else (mayhem). Each section will be titled accordingly... I hope.twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-83829880523760886672012-09-20T13:43:00.000-07:002012-09-21T07:32:51.131-07:00MAYHEM!! (and the calm goodness that follows)<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Wow! What a year it has been since I last posted on this blog! Too much to mention, but let's have a quick rundown, shall we? Buckle up:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">1. New full-time gig as a Communications Advisor at a global zinc mining company. Huh. Never thought I'd work at a zinc mine, but it's fun, creative work.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">2. And that's where I met the man I married some 12 days ago. I laid eyes on him in July and we were dating by September. He proposed via a "collaborative kidnapping" that involved my family, friends and coworkers building a scheme for months to trick me into taking a long weekend off work to Highlands, NC for Valentine's Day. I never looked back.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">3. We sustained a year-long, long distance relationship, driving between Knoxville and Nashville, building our family of four boys and one spoiled cat.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">4. My son and I moved (enough said).</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">5. THE WEDDING PLANNING!! Oh dear god, why doesn't someone TELL you about the wedding planning? At the end there I honestly thought about just throwing boxes of antique bells throw a window (destruction through defenestration), shredding custom napkins and collapsing into a screaming shivering puddle. But now.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">6. THE WEDDING. Did I enjoy it? Sure. Do I remember it? Hell no.</span><br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif; font-size: small;"><b>Dashing groom Steve (left), myself and Mark Lee, my dear friend who performed the ceremony (and was it a performance!) </b></span></td></tr>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">7. THE HONEYMOON. Did I enjoy it? You bet your sweet ass I did. Do I remember it? Absolutely, and I took a few hundred Facebook friends on the ride with us via my ole friend Instagram.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">But something incredible was taking shape in the midst of my own personal madness (AKA: THE WEDDING), a gathering force of remarkable, creative, quirky and industrious women who have a vision of changing how writers reach readers and readers, in turn, access quality, compelling writing in new and creative ways.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">In the meantime, stay tuned. I'm rising from the fog of the last year and the swirling chaos that was wedding planning and family-joining, and I'm back in business, babies.</span><br />
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<!--[endif]-->twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-19253968839822171312011-05-31T07:51:00.000-07:002011-05-31T08:37:44.080-07:00On taking a chance: my interview by Michael Lee WestMost people like to read about things they know about as well as what they don't, and everybody likes to read about <i>people</i> they know... or think they know. That's how it felt when I started reading the novels of Michael Lee West many years ago: not only do the characters and dialogue ring true to this Southern lady, but the setting was eerily familiar as well, and talk around town was that the town she set some of her novels in, especially <i>American Pie</i> and <i>Crazy Ladies</i>, was a shadow of the town Mrs. West and I both reside in: Lebanon, Tennessee. <div><br /></div><div>I devoured every novel she'd written up until the point I started reading them, and then awaiting each new one. My copy of <i>Mad Girls in Lov</i>e literally split in half from me wagging it around and reading it for weeks.</div><div><br /></div><div>Mrs. West and I have kept in touch over the years, starting with us meeting at the Tennessee Writers Alliance writing conference at Cumberland University in 2004, I think. Then I joined the board of the TWA and had Mrs. West involved in its quarterly newsletter and then, last year, asked her to be involved in <i>Milk & Ink: a Mosaic of Motherhood</i>, the literary anthology I helped edit and contributed to.</div><div><br /></div><div>So, as a fan of her work and a fellow writer I was thrilled when she asked to interview me for her stylish and popular blog, <a href="http://designsbygollum.blogspot.com/">http://designsbygollum.blogspot.com/</a></div><div><br /></div><div>In my interview I talk about my trip to France last year, my writing habits and even give the recipe for the favorite French dish I make at home, chicken ratatouille.</div><div><br /></div><div>Here's the link - I hope you enjoy and come back for more! </div><div>~ <a href="http://designsbygollum.blogspot.com/2011/05/interview-with-two-authors.html">http://designsbygollum.blogspot.com/2011/05/interview-with-two-authors.html</a></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-51615839025928459472011-05-30T00:50:00.000-07:002011-05-30T01:47:58.460-07:00On Mayhem: Living with kittensThe thought "I wonder where my Coke is - I sure would like a sip" had no sooner entered my mind then I heard the <i>thunk</i> and splash. The sticky, delicious liquid was already dripping off the edge of the white bureau in my den and soaking into the beige carpet before I could moan a curse and shove my laptop aside, tripping over The Best Comforter in the World to get to the mess.<div><br /></div><div>I have one mama cat, Gatsby, and three kittens. We had five kittens but have managed to unload two of them so far. I fear we are keeping the rest, as they have found their way, quite relentlessly, into our hearts.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIBrENXQ8vzqj2D7o8yA8d2wN1JnnHwnPX_5E5swTxYP_DmL_ReHnpRJj9iSA8Zo6TQK848p0KwVsDliumwzFwG1QeJWHx_w2WiYQoB_eholiOZSaiYc9vkMfVYa5izKpOGybGf-Dqx6o/s1600/IMG_4137.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 299px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjIBrENXQ8vzqj2D7o8yA8d2wN1JnnHwnPX_5E5swTxYP_DmL_ReHnpRJj9iSA8Zo6TQK848p0KwVsDliumwzFwG1QeJWHx_w2WiYQoB_eholiOZSaiYc9vkMfVYa5izKpOGybGf-Dqx6o/s400/IMG_4137.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5612414742159343346" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: bold; "><i>Monster and The Dude</i></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: bold; "><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: bold; "><i><br /></i></span></div><div style="text-align: left;">I've never had cats before: we are dog people in my family. My dad and stepmother have a lovely Siamese, Jasmine, but she pretty much lives under their bed and is rarely seen in my presence. In fact, I was severely allergic to them until either A. I had my son or B. he decided he <i>needed</i> kitten about a year and half ago. I don't know what happened, but my severe allergy was downgraded to mild when Gatsby found her way into our life as a kitten just a little younger than hers are now.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><b><i><br /></i></b></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjplkrKuUN-HzveZIbbKvasa164v77KwpToWhag_4JBNDaraEFQ342z1J2Fqvqko2JW3jXhAAPX5QHXNq4mekPA-INd5vuD8Msq_rWOLq54Zp7PVjThMJf_yjGc39KckWPu3-4InC7e3Z4/s1600/465.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjplkrKuUN-HzveZIbbKvasa164v77KwpToWhag_4JBNDaraEFQ342z1J2Fqvqko2JW3jXhAAPX5QHXNq4mekPA-INd5vuD8Msq_rWOLq54Zp7PVjThMJf_yjGc39KckWPu3-4InC7e3Z4/s400/465.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5612416193277498386" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic; "><b>Gatsby on the ride home</b></span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-style: italic; "><b><br /></b></span></div><div style="text-align: left;">My son and I hadn't been living at The Cottage for very long before I returned home one day to find our front door slightly ajar - it had been that way for hours, apparently. Obviously distressed, I burst into the house with little thought to a knife-wielding stranger camped out inside but more along the lines of <i>"They took our stuff! Our STUFF!"</i> Nevermind we have very few things of any value to anyone but us: it is <i>our stuff</i>.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Our stuff was all still there, from the ancient, Jurassic analog TV to my pretty but relatively inexpensive jewelry. Everything, that is, except our beloved cat.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">I talked to neighbors, I made calls: no one had seen her. Not knowing anything about cats or their... <i>habits</i>... I threw up my hands and prepared to tell my son that his cat was gone. The recent move and my even more recent bout with kidney stones resulting in an extended stay in ICU with sepsis had been unsettling enough - now the cat was gone.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">She wasn't gone for long. Two days later we spotted her on the front porch as we returned home. She wasn't alone.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">"Gatsby's back," The Dude cried out, pointing from the backseat. "And she has a new husband!"</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">"Oh hell," I muttered, eying the orange, quite pedestrian friend who had escorted our little slut cat home.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Of course you know how the story goes. I, again, knew nothing about pregnant cats. I thought (and prayed) that she was just getting fat. I convinced myself that she was just getting fat even if I convinced no one else. As the truth began to literally show itself I relented to the fact that we were about to have several new additions to our small family.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">"How many kittens do cats have?" I wondered aloud to friends. "Two? Three, maybe?" This resulted in amused snorts from my best friend Sarah, a cat lover from way back.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">In late February I returned home from a trip to a local walk-in clinic to treat a hellacious sinus infection to my jubilant son meeting me at the door, jabbering, "Gatsby had her kittens! There are FIVE of them!"</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Horrified, I stumbled to our laundry room to find Gatsby, even more irritable than usual, curled around a nest of mewling, slick and gorgeous kittens. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlWcg1HvqteIh24V3l_6viC4T5IGiToGBUEuvYvkOH-iLdnleNzgsG1AE4oLDKbPLpTy-GgoGDwrGW4kT1iFRlOTPyVNWoCgV6aeYxBqhT-GA4z9sVengTRbSvagIwCJ3UUgy411h6SJw/s1600/1564.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 299px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhlWcg1HvqteIh24V3l_6viC4T5IGiToGBUEuvYvkOH-iLdnleNzgsG1AE4oLDKbPLpTy-GgoGDwrGW4kT1iFRlOTPyVNWoCgV6aeYxBqhT-GA4z9sVengTRbSvagIwCJ3UUgy411h6SJw/s400/1564.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5612421202184561314" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Since then our little home has gone from manageable and pleasant to unpredictable, often messy and delightful. Things are suddenly knocked from shelves and tables, there are unexplained messes in unexpected places, and forget about sitting for any extended period of time without having a small knot of fuzzy kitten for company. </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Here are some things I have learned from having kittens:</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">1. Your stuff is no longer your stuff. It's their stuff. Feel privileged for even being allowed to remain in the house.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">2. Don't leave your purse on any sort of elevated surface. Don't leave anything on any sort of elevated surface, for that matter, because it <i>will</i> get knocked off and things will be scattered. Lipsticks and earrings will disappear forever.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">3. Your days of laying down and reading peacefully are over. Your reading view will either be blocked by a sleeping cat on your chest or you will become part of the track they are using to run laps through the house.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">4. Forget about privacy, period. Whether it's just sleeping (they will find a way to enter your bedroom unless you just plain ole shut the door, and then they will mew pitifully and mercilessly outside the door, and small paws will appear beneath the door, patting inside desperately) or what was once considered private bathroom time (bathing alone is unacceptable, you can't be trusted to be alone in their bathtub, don't you know that's where they get the best sips of water?), you are now at their mercy at all times.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-2aHTEit5nIu0YlitTcCyvPCjnWKeivP6g_7FUmge99m37Jwgo4_cmeVG-1SnbCDs_5UD0Kert2ImM-eqqFjboHEF9hxmlJS1AfpgcCd0yEXb1Ytzia8GPPscPpOzkkmWWxMtM3aAiLE/s1600/1226.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 299px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-2aHTEit5nIu0YlitTcCyvPCjnWKeivP6g_7FUmge99m37Jwgo4_cmeVG-1SnbCDs_5UD0Kert2ImM-eqqFjboHEF9hxmlJS1AfpgcCd0yEXb1Ytzia8GPPscPpOzkkmWWxMtM3aAiLE/s400/1226.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5612423678460297730" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">5. Your vocabulary will now include phrases like "sifting litter pan liner" and "odor control for small spaces" which, actually, can be applied to other parts of your life.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">6. There are few things softer or more precious in this world than the belly of a sated, sleeping long-haired kitten purring, curled around your neck. This will become a soothing and necessary part of your writing routine, like ambient music.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">7. Get used to waking up and having at least a small part of every room scattered, including piles of books knocked over <i>every single day, several times a day, </i>and DVDs knocked off the top of the DVD player because one of the kittens just loves napping on top of the warm machine.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">So, there are sacrifices that must be made, time that will be carved out of your day to do anything from change the litter box (constantly, at least twice a day, at least in my house) to pausing to let a passing kitten nuzzle your nose or weave between your ankles as you try to complete a hurried meal. These are the little things that change your life and make you adore these little darling creatures that, at one time, made your eyes swell and your back prickle in annoyance.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Because, looking at them, how could you <i>not</i> love them?</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxcgwV5oXQog7wz6eCb2C4ziLwYGd-IfDMlmD-fZwvlA1i2oiR0h1DgHoZhJ7VmyoEPqbPAjAG21DGYoyUmsjURxKG4YFuOpa1-g_WQUc1mgXE8S1gNufMj2QzCS0Fw1MM9ziZvnoUj8E/s1600/1729.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 299px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgxcgwV5oXQog7wz6eCb2C4ziLwYGd-IfDMlmD-fZwvlA1i2oiR0h1DgHoZhJ7VmyoEPqbPAjAG21DGYoyUmsjURxKG4YFuOpa1-g_WQUc1mgXE8S1gNufMj2QzCS0Fw1MM9ziZvnoUj8E/s400/1729.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5612426509223787602" /></a></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-30289472145493818542011-05-24T17:36:00.000-07:002011-05-24T17:43:48.329-07:00On Telling Tales: A Forward<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><u><br /></u></span></div><b><i><span class="Apple-style-span" >Time for a laugh</span></i></b><div><br /></div><div><br />Trust me – you’re not the only one who’s felt this way.<br /> <br />You’re not the only mom who has opened your sliding minivan door (Minivan? When did you agree to drive a <i>minivan</i>?) and had all sorts of clothes, food packaging, plastic cups, lost homework and various sports-related articles spill out onto a parking lot.<br /><br /><div>You’re not the only mom who has had to make two dozen last-minute cupcakes for class, or walk, without makeup and with flyaway hair, your child to class as he clutches a tardy slip, irate because it’s actually <i>your</i> fault he’s late. Not the only mom to worry about whether your child makes the football team, makes the grade, makes the right choice.<br /><br /> </div><div>You’re not the only woman who’s worried about what sort of mom she is, whether her decisions are correct, whether or not to console the child you just disciplined. You’re not the only woman who has had to turn to another mother instead of her husband or mate for consultation and condolence.<br /><br /> </div><div>And, most likely, you don’t have time to sit down and read a whole lot of a book, no matter how much you’d love to and how great it is.<br /><br /></div><div>Only part of the funny, touching, validating and entertaining book you’re holding in your hands is that is can – and maybe should – be read in sips. <i>Telling Tale</i>s is a compilation of weekly columns by Angel Kane and Becky Andrews, two intelligent, professional, compassionate women who happen to have a lot of children and a lot to say about what it takes to keep their family, their careers, and their sanity in tact.<br /><br /></div><div><i>Telling Tales</i> is about the bonds between mothers and their children, their mates, and their families, but also about the imperative relationship between mothers and their friends. No woman, despite how urgently we wish to be sometimes, is an island – and our life preservers can be the phone calls, the understanding nods, and the time our friends take to share our burdens, our stories and our lives.<br /><br /></div><div><i>Telling Tales</i> is a life jacket to grasp when you need just a little something to make you smile and hold up your head, turn your face to the world and think, “I’m not alone, and I can do this.”<br /><br /></div><div>I have read the columns written alternately by these two women in <i>The Wilson Post </i>newspapers for years, but it wasn’t until I read them all together in a complete manuscript that I felt the strength of their friendship and the honest, wry wisdom of their words. I’m honored to be a part of this collection of columns, and I know you will enjoy each little sip of the cocktail and come back for more.<br /><br /></div><div>And, like any good diversion in life, this one’s better shared with a friend.<br /><br /><br />Tomi L. Wiley<br />October, 2010</div></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-20483267893747024282011-05-18T09:09:00.000-07:002011-05-18T09:14:09.591-07:00A Short Short Story *or* A Beginning....<p class="MsoNormal">The first cake I tried apparently had way too much explosive agent inside because when I tossed the damn thing out the front door of my bakery and into the street the tow truck it splattered against exploded.<br /><br />I was walking back into the shop, wiping buttercream icing off my hands with the hem of my apron, when the bakery floor buckled and the glass shelves in my display cases fell, sprinkling a dozen cooling cupcakes with slivers of glass. Smelling smoke, I turned, my lower lip caught between my teeth, and saw the truck on fire in the middle of the street; dollops of buttercream icing and a few pink roses dotted the sidewalk between the front door of my bakery and the smoldering tow truck.<br /><br />"Aw sugar," I said.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfTitPjqpfdJtxjBwGHXXhQA_KaAyd30ucPad8ORF9SqbB735vIndagNKk8uSblVkvy0G0gJ7bl3OF7Ciivom_Hnqfzc5QxBf8Z023jkMX9bdmaeITZogu0a5yvxL7LF6B4bAl6eUHsvo/s1600/cake+fireworks.jpg" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 285px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfTitPjqpfdJtxjBwGHXXhQA_KaAyd30ucPad8ORF9SqbB735vIndagNKk8uSblVkvy0G0gJ7bl3OF7Ciivom_Hnqfzc5QxBf8Z023jkMX9bdmaeITZogu0a5yvxL7LF6B4bAl6eUHsvo/s400/cake+fireworks.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5608089988291122242" /></a>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-44478736544173711442011-04-28T10:24:00.001-07:002011-04-28T10:33:17.874-07:00Joseph Devon's new book launches today!My talented writer friend Joseph Devon has worked for years on the sequel to his novel<i> Probability Angels</i>. The result, after many readings, rewrites, edits, texts, emails and arguments, is <i>Book Two: Persistent Illusions</i>, on sale today for Kindle and paperback. Below is a review I wrote of <i>Probability Angels</i> after first reading it, originally published in <i>The Tennessee Writer</i>, a quarterly newsletter for the Tennessee Writers Alliance.<div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;">**</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:.5in;line-height:15.0pt"><span class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); ">Every once in a while I start a book that, a few pages in, I feel the need to turn back to the first sentence, slow down, take my time and truly enjoy. Because I read so much for work, and there are never enough hours in the workday to see the bottom of my Inbox, I tend to scan, to skim, to let my eyes slide over words, digesting them enough to get the gist of what I’m reading without actually tasting it – more like chewing gum than enjoying a snack. Rarely do I find reading material, particularly that I’m reading for pleasure, that forces me to slow down, to cock my head and consider each sentence, each description, turn of phrase and idiosyncrasies of dialogue – Joseph Devon’s </span><a href="http://josephdevon.com/novels/probability-angels"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><i>Probability Angels</i></span></a><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "> is one such book.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:.5in;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span">The concept of the novel is intriguing and original – mortals who give up their own lives to save that of a loved one and in turn spend eternity “pushing” other mortals to go as far as possible and create new ideas, art, and technological innovations: such examples in the novel are Isaac Newton, Bram Stoker, and Shakespeare.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span"> These “angels” are trained by masters, such as Epp (Epictetus), a one-time slave from Ancient Greece who has pushed mortals and trained angels for centuries. Epp is powerful and smart, tough and brave – and other elder angels think his time as a deified master has come to an end, sparking a battle between the angels and the “other things,” described as zombies, for the soul of Epp and the position of power he holds in their eternal universe.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span"> I won’t go into the details of this novel because I think everyone should read it for themselves, but the themes of this fascinating, thought-provoking read have been tackled and tossed about through the ages: the choices we make affect more than just our lives and create a ripple affect, touching the lives of others for years to come, and making difficult choices – or choosing not to make them and allow life to just “happen” – are how people grow, change, and adapt.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:.5in;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span">The choices the angels make to forfeit their lives as mortals and spend eternity “testing” other mortals is one of immense, eternal pain and sorrow, but, as Epp tells protagonist Matthew, the reward for the excruciating decision long outweighs the temporary pain.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:.5in;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span">“The upside is that you can be greatness itself. You could be Shakespeare’s broken heart, Beethoven’s deaf ears, Van Gogh’s madness. You could be Kellar’s scarlet fever, Roebling’s crushed left foot, the color of Dr. King’s skin. You could be the entry for light to pass into the soul. You could be the reason everything worth doing on this rock ever gets done.”<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:.5in;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span">While the notion that our most difficult decisions, and their life-changing results, are “pushed” by angels who are constantly surrounding us and interacting in our lives in ways that we never realize, is not a purely novel concept, Devon’s characters and methods are original and wholly captivating. His ear for dialogue and knack for character development is to be admired, and I closed the book feeling not only as if I knew the characters but felt invested in their lives. Succinctly, I wanted more but was satisfied in the moment with a fully realized experience. And like any good meal savored slowly and carefully, relishing each moment and morsel, I can’t wait to return for a second course.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p style="margin:0in;margin-bottom:.0001pt;text-indent:.5in;line-height:15.0pt"><span style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span"><i>Book Two: Persistent Illusions</i> launched today, Thursday, April 28. Find Book One: Probability Angles and how to order <i>Book Two: Persistent Illunsions</i> at http://josephdevon.com/novels/probability-angels. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 9pt; "><o:p></o:p></span></span></p></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-24321409558071747712011-04-12T10:39:00.000-07:002011-04-12T10:44:07.879-07:00On Motherhood: Working title (a poem)<div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >Swathed in my sheets</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >my son, sweaty and five,</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >sighs, reaches out a plump palm.</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" ><br /></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >Even in his dreams</span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><span class="Apple-style-span" >he has been waiting for me.</span></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-20066574967884063742011-04-08T10:13:00.000-07:002011-04-08T10:24:53.717-07:00On Mayhem: For Whom the Heart Bleeds<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span"><u><br /></u></span></div>I'm part of a fun, interesting project called Dorothy: Locked and Loaded, which is - in creator Scott Meek's words - the serialized, collaborative novel effort of five writers, each of whom will play a very specific role within the story of the return to Oz of "Dorothy". Only this time, it is not "Dorothy Gale" of the original; it is "Dot", her granddaughter, who grew up listening to the wild and hardly believable tales of her grandmother's adventures in the land of Oz.<br /><br />What fate awaits our heroine in an Oz that has evolved, or dare we say "devolved", over the course of fifty years? What new or old dangers lurk? What has been the fate of Dorothy's old companions? Will they still be there to help the newest stranger in the land? Will they be who she's always heard they were, or have they changed? And was it for the better?<br /><br />Stay tuned and find out right here as Dot, the Scarecrow, the Tin Man and the Lion, as well as your faithful narrator, tell the story of "Dorothy: Locked & Loaded". Toto is a little more lethal than he ever was, but this isn't Kansas or your grandmother's Oz!<div><br /></div><div><br /><div>Here's the beginning of my latest installment, posted today:</div><div><br /></div><div><img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiABY9llPS0wO6ksk_38TmC9xXFOIZ90Vi7_jcMtd4yB8kLOahAEfVRItBFC3x0DwqFrmqwPPd-tBbtzqLUFd9Z73TQnGoF6X_7cMdJ1xk0nuAHFJBf30mcCwCnTYOFvpsoP5zdWKlD5RQ/s400/haunted-trees.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><span style="font-weight:bold;">I thought that they could never die. That’s what I was told. That no one in Oz ever dies.<br /><br />It was a lie.<br /><br />Scarecrow sat by my side while I was on the throne. While I was Emperor of the Winkies, he traveled with me, chattering ceaselessly, reciting poetry he learned from his professor friend. What I wouldn’t give to have him here with me, now, on this lonely road to the Emerald City. For these are hills familiar to him, forests deep and known, and I should know them, too, but my head is filled with nothing, with dust rising in a wind of thought, of need, my mind dusty and rusting and turning on itself.<br /><br />This was the road we took to find her. To find my Nimma, my rose, my love.<br /><br />But then, she was called Nimmie Amee.<br /><br />I pause on the edge of a forest, eyeing the trees shivering in the fading pink light of dusk. Leaves turning over, silvered, offering themselves to a coming rain. I have to get out of the open, under cover, before it comes. Ignoring a groaning that rises either from the wind through the trees or my own aching throat, I start toward the dim, the depth, the held breath of the forest.<br /><br />My steps echo on the flaking brick road, bounce off the trees and back to me, bounce off the tin that is me and back to the trees. We are playing, the trees and me. Calling out, step step step. Knock knock knock. Tik tock. Tick tock.<br /><br />The trees are reaching arms and gnarled grey bark faces. Maybe it’s my tired eyes, my rising mind, but they seem to yawn and snarl, to eye and scorn me. Last time they punished us for Dorothy’s collecting their fallen fruit. They were hateful and scorned. But that was then, when our world was different, before my empire of shining tin crumbled into dust and ruin.</span></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div><b><br /></b></div><div><span></span>What's the Tin Man's deep, dark secret? How many beating hearts did he carry in his metal chest? </div><div><br /></div><div>Find out ~ <a href="http://dorothylockedandloaded.blogspot.com/">http://dorothylockedandloaded.blogspot.com/</a><br /><br /></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-90451130903004638742011-04-06T06:36:00.001-07:002011-04-06T06:50:47.165-07:00On Media: On the General Jackson<div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b><i>General Jackson’s new season has something for everyone</i></b></div><div><b><i><br /></i></b></div><div><b><i><br /></i></b></div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhT-9pii0zjMg4vJ3DKByrpf3T7aP7M83udaqkXWrUPsOoWOxLNDsePGuOYYDdbUD8JdllThoZr1tHp99qQ1Q2T0vwy9SVUGnnLLG0xwawYmXyisu9T0NxDNf438eKfx9Yfe-BztYFv-DE/s1600/GJack_DowntownNight_2005.JPG" onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 360px; height: 216px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhT-9pii0zjMg4vJ3DKByrpf3T7aP7M83udaqkXWrUPsOoWOxLNDsePGuOYYDdbUD8JdllThoZr1tHp99qQ1Q2T0vwy9SVUGnnLLG0xwawYmXyisu9T0NxDNf438eKfx9Yfe-BztYFv-DE/s400/GJack_DowntownNight_2005.JPG" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5592467387630886658" /></a><br /> <div><br /></div><div> Whether you like current country, your grandfather’s classics, or get down with gospel, this season’s General Jackson show cruise has something for you.<br /> <div><i><br /></i></div><div> <i>Country Music USA</i> is a nostalgic take on country’s past and present, showcasing the talents of country, western and gospel stars from Hank Williams, Sr. and Patsy Cline to Reba Williams and Rascal Flatts. The show gives a nod to its country roots in the Grand Ole Opry, reverence to the religious roots with a gospel medley, and a shout out to today’s stars with current hits straight from country’s Top 40.</div><div><br /> </div><div> But the music’s not the only thing to enjoy on the General Jackson, which was named after President Andrew Jackson and has been a Nashville staple since 1985. Tourists and locals alike enjoy views of the Cumberland River and Downtown Nashville singular to the cruise, as well as gourmet meals prepared with care by Gaylord Opryland Resort’s award-winning chefs and served both “family style” and as three course meals, depending on the cruise.<br /><br /> </div><div> “The General Jackson Showboat has a proud heritage here in Nashville. From the moment our guests board the boat, they are treated to a one-of-a-kind experience, which starts with our well-known Southern hospitality,” said Dennis Schnurbusch, general manager of the General Jackson Showboat. “Guests get to see the sights and sounds of the city as the boat travels the Cumberland River, all while enjoying Tennessee’s temperate climate. With excellent music and wonderful food, the General Jackson is where memories are made.”<br /><br /> </div><div> <i>Country Music USA</i> features the talents of Brian Glenn, Chad Hudson, Paul Vann, Lori Beth Hogan, Jamie Godfrey, and Natasha Noack. The high-energy show begins with an Old Time Gospel Medley, then moves into Country Roots and Grand Ole Opry staples, such as “Foggy Mountain Breakdown,” “Blue Moon of Kentucky,” and “Salty Dog Blues.”<br /><br /> </div><div> Fans of classic country will be tapping their toes to the two Classic Country Medleys, in which songs and artists range from “I Walk the Line” by Johnny Cash to “Why Haven’t I Heard from You” by Reba McEntire.<br /><br /> </div><div> Prefer current country? The cast jams their way through a set list with hits from Garth Brooks, George Straight, Carrie Underwood and many more – including, of course, the omnipresent Taylor Swift. Filled with great food and thrilled by an excellent show, General Jackson cruisers enjoy a patriotic finale with “In God We Still Trust” and “God Bless the U.S.A.”<br /> But don’t think you have to sit still the entire time – a mid-show intermission gives cruisers an opportunity to explore the General Jackson and enjoy the great views of the Cumberland River, green banks and finally, the sparkling skyline of Downtown Nashville over the splashing paddlewheel. Bring your camera.<br /><br /> </div><div> The General Jackson Showboat, built by Jeffersonville, Ind.-based Jeffboat, was launched April 20, 1985 and was christened July 2, 1985. The boat can hold 1,200 passengers and 157 crew members. The paddlewheel riverboat stands 77 feet tall, making it one of the country’s largest showboats. The paddlewheel itself is 36 feet long, 24 feet wide and weighs 36 tons. Two Caterpillar 3512 engines, each with 1050 horse power and 880 kilowatt generators, are responsible for powering the boat, which has a maximum speed of 13 miles per hour. Most recently, the General Jackson, with its beautiful surroundings and one-of-a-kind experiences, was named “Best Place to Kiss” a distinction from the <i>Tennessean</i> newspaper.<br /><br /> </div><div> Special event cruises for Valentine’s Day, Mardi Gras, Tennessee Titans football games, Halloween and even New Year’s Eve make the General Jackson a popular choice for people looking for a safe, memorable time.<br /><br /> </div><div> <i>Country Music USA</i> is a three-hour evening cruise and runs through November 13. Ticket prices range from $55.52 per person to $87.95 per person, plus tax.<br /><br /></div><div> Boarding takes place at 6:15 p.m., with the boat returning at 10 p.m. (Monday through Saturday). Sunday evening cruise times are one hour earlier.<br /><br /> </div><div> The General Jackson Showboat offers both midday and evening cruises with a variety of entertainment options throughout the year. Holiday cruises begin mid-November.<br /><br /> For tickets or more information, please call 615-458-3900 or visit www.generaljackson.com.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b><i>Have a program, show, book or event you'd like me to attend and review? Email</i></b> twileypr@gmail.com</div></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-28023141252732797132011-03-23T13:10:00.000-07:002011-03-23T13:22:11.924-07:00On Motherhood: How much info is too much?<div><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:georgia;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:georgia;">My mother tells this story of a time when I was “sick” – from what I can ascertain, I probably just had a bad cold. Of course, to hear Mom tell it, I was languishing, knocking on Death’s door pale-faced and clammy.<br /><br />Our memories of a particular doctor whose care I was in only briefly when I was very young is subjective and suspect at best: my only memory of this doctor’s office is of sitting on an examination table, trembling, as a nurse with the long red nails and gravelly voice of a storybook stepmother gripped my wrist in one fist and used the other to walk her fingers, spider-like, up my forearm and bicep.<br /><br />This is where my writer’s imagination kicks in, my mother always says at this point of the story, although she’s never flat-out denied this happened.<br /><br />“<em>Here comes the kitty cat</em>,” the nurse growled, and slammed the needle – easily the length of a ruler, shining and dripping before it pierced my skin – into the pliant peach flesh of my toddler arm.<br /><br />That’s my one story from this particular doctor. My mother’s is quite different.<br /><br />She had brought me to the doctor with, as I said, what I assume was a cold. She was frantic about my fever, nearly comatose concerning my chills. After examining me and (I can only assume) dispensing the witch-nurse to give me a shot of sudden cure (penicillin, which I was later diagnosed as allergic to, which could explain the severe reaction memory), the doctor walked my mother down the hall, and they peeked into the open doors, glimpsing pieces of the lives of sick children.<br /><br />According to my mother, there was one child that had been recently diagnosed with cancer but was in that day to treat a cold; one child lay shivering beneath a blanket on an exam table, staring at the wall with clouded hot eyes, who was about to be admitted into the hospital to be treated for pneumonia; another child was inconsolable, racked with a cough you could hear in the waiting room, pink phlegm spraying his lap and hands, his mother a sunken heap in a corner chair, haggard and helpless.<br /><br />“These,” the doctor told my mother, “are sick children. Your child has a cold.”<br /><br />I hear these words any time my son gets sick – even if, as in the past few days, he has been vomiting without warning, sobbing on the toilet with diarrhea, listless and silent with fever. I took him to the doctor after a night of this, after running through every piece of linen in my house – from towel paths on the floor from each room to the bathroom, because he couldn’t control his vomiting, to sheets and pillowcases, washcloths and dishtowels, anything to wipe up the sick and replace what had just been replaced and he had soiled. Pajamas, underwear, my sleep shirts and hands, hair, and feet – all bile-slicked and stinking. It didn’t help that the last meal he had before the virus set in was fried shrimp, coleslaw, chips and salsa.<br /><br />The doctor, who seemed more removed and distracted than usual, which I didn’t especially appreciate, diagnosed my son with a stomach virus. I continued to list everything my son had eaten the day before, in case it was food poisoning or too much candy at the funeral home (my aunt passed last week, and the funeral home is lousy with mints and candy vending machines) the fact that he’d been congested and maybe it was sinus drainage into his stomach and making him sick, it could be anything.<br /><br />It wasn’t anything. It was a stomach virus, and he’d be over it in a few days. The main concern was keeping him hydrated, which would be a slow and persistent process. If he didn’t “tolerate” fluids consistently by yesterday afternoon, my son would need to be hospitalized.<br /><br />Once he was home and in bed, he slept nearly the rest of the day. Almost as soon as he was settled and sleeping, my body decided to let go and succumb to the virus as well – I hadn’t felt so hot myself all night but had concentrated so fully on him (and cleaning up after him) that I had barely noticed.<br /><br />In these days of constant status updates, Twitter feeds and texting, there was many time that I wanted to update my Facebook status about my son’s health: that he was so lethargic and quiet, the consistent giggling, muttering and thumping as he leaps off his bed or swings into action as Spiderman was non-existent noise from his bedroom, and it worried me. He had to tire of me popping my head in and squinting at his lifeless lump beneath the red comforter on the bottom bunk, my palm against his forehead, my knuckles on his cheek as he tried to sleep.<br /><br />But I found myself hesitating and often not updating my status because I immediately thought of a friend who’s son has cancer and who’s daughter has donated her own bone marrow to help save him. The thought of her reading my update about being worried that my son was still sleeping, or wasn’t laughing with me at The Simpsons, or vomited again after several calm hours, shamed me, made my fears seem gratuitous and silly.<br /><br />I thought of when I worked in Mt. Juliet at the newspaper and there were (still are) at least a half dozen children under the age of 12 who are either currently battling cancer or have succumbed to it in recent years – a rather high number, in my opinion, in such a small square area, but that’s another story for another journalist. I never had the courage or tough heart enough to take it on. I simply told their stories – both encouraging and of dwindling health – and went about my way, telling myself I was grateful for a healthy son, and any little cold or sickness he came down with I’d keep to myself as much as possible.<br /><br />But is that any way to live a life? If I can’t share my concerns and worries, no matter on what scale they compare to someone else’s, with my friends and family, who could possibly have tips or advice for me during my own trying time, what good is social media and networking, anyway?<br /><br />Should I feel bad about worrying over my son, who is sick, although not as sick as other children – those with cancer, or genetic diseases, or any other debilitating situation spiraling their lives out of their control? I’m profoundly grateful that my son is in overall wonderful health, but when that does falter should I constantly keep the problems of other children in mind and my fingertips silent?<br /><br />Basically, how much information shared on social networks is too much? </span></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-39509390902895314132011-03-01T09:00:00.001-08:002011-03-01T09:44:44.805-08:00On Mayhem: Life, in generalAdmittedly yes, it's been a while since I've blogged, but inevitably life gets in the way, we wander off sidetracked, become caught in brambles, lose our way.<br /><br />I've lost a lot in the past couple of weeks, but I've gained even more: time. Time for my son, time for myself, time for my writing. I have some amazing opportunities and chances and changes on the horizon, and I'm pretty excited about that.<br /><br />But in the meantime, I'm volunteering at my son's school.<br /><br />The Dude is in Kindergarten, and apparently it is common for mothers who either don't work or have the free time to volunteer in the classroom for several hours in the morning. My son was ready for me to join the Mommy ranks immediately after I left my job, but I needed some time to prepare. It's a good thing I did.<br /><br />His teacher, whom I consider a princess because she's beautiful, patient, put-together and delightful, told me to wear "old clothes" because I'd be painting with the children. The thought of painting at all makes me bite my lip, much less throwing 27 excitable five year olds into the mix. At least most of my clothes can be considered "old" by most anyone's standards, so I didn't have to worry about what to wear.<br /><br />Decked out in all black, The Dude and I arrived on time at school. I parked and looked at him as he clamored over the console and into my lap, the usual way he climbs out of the car to go to school.<br /><br />"So look, Mom," he said, settling into my lap and tapping the steering wheel. "Just because she sits beside me and sometimes I have to talk to her doesn't mean that Sarah and I aren't still broken up. Because we are."<br /><br />Now this was unexpected.<br /><br />"Well, okay," I frowned, trying to gather his backpack and my purse as he struggled in the opposite direction to open the car door. "But, just because you're not boyfriend and girlfriend any more (might I add, they are <em>five</em>) doesn't mean you can't still be friends. I mean, I'm friends with almost all of my ex-boyfriends. It's natural if you had a healthy relationship you want to continue."<br /><br />"That," The Dude said, hopping out of the car and straight into a mud puddle with both feet, "is not the situation here. And that's all I have to say about it."<br /><br />Now, I have always liked Sarah. Always since, oh, August, when the kids started school together and I watched this little girl greet my son in the hallway with a bright smile and a kiss on the cheek. (Yeah, I was a bit taken aback by that, but all right.) She obviously was crazy about my son, and she's a quick, friendly little thing with strong opinons and a confidence that belies her age. She gets this from her mother, I think.<br /><br />That said, I immediately greeted the sunny little blonde, who happens to still sit beside The Dude in class. He glared at me for this blatant act of traitorism, to which I shrugged, and smiled, and went about my volunteering business.<br /><br />I passed out stickers for homework and worked in the students' reading folders, in which each child is sent home with a book about a letter, such as A - Andy the Ant, or something to that effect. This was how I learned that my son, and one other child in his class, does not use those letter books - he and his friend are sent to the library, where he chooses a book each day from those reserved for students in the second grade.<br /><br />The second grade. I blinked at him when he told me this, non-chalantly, as if he'd just said he gets to pick out his own tater tots at lunch, or his preferred milk of choice is strawberry. As if I should know that he's in Kindergarten but reading books for second graders.<br /><br />One interesting project I worked on was in the students' Memory Books. These are plastic binders in which each month is filled with writing projects, photos, art attempts. I was working in February, and I had to call each child over to me and ask what three things they love, and then what (or who) they love the most.<br /><br />The answers were funny and unpredictable. It was interesting to see which students listed <em>things</em> instead of people, like their toys and pets and stuffed animals. My own son gave macaroni and cheese as an answer, which surprised me, since he's only lately started eating it - and that's just because he tried some of my Easy Mac with red chili sauce in it. Now that's the only way he'll eat it. He said he loves me "most of all."<br /><br />"Of course you do," I sniffed, and kissed his nose.<br /><br />Two other children listed either my son or something he had given them as things they loved, and one little boy said he loved The Dude most of all.<br /><br />"Huh," I said, jotting down the answer. "Okaaaaaay."<br /><br />It was near time for lunch when my son, distracted and watching me, clearly bereft at the fact that I'd be leaving soon, backed toward his tiny chair and tried to sit down - without looking. He tumbled backward into the floor, all flailing hands and kicking knees. I covered my mouth with my hand and called, "Are you okay?"<br /><br />He scrambed to his feet, red-faced and already wet-eyed. He glared at me. "I NEVER should have asked you to come here!" he cried, sitting carefully and covering his face. I called out his name.<br /><br />Sarah, an arm's length away from him, peered into his face, touched his fingers. She turned to me. "Miss Tomi? He's crying."<br /><br />"I AM NOT!" He shrieked, and we all jumped. His teacher glanced over, but I waved a hand. "I just <em>never</em> should have asked you here!"<br /><br /> This is a typical reaction of my son: he can't just be upset that this isolated incident happened and embarrassed him for a moment - he is responsible for the entire rotten day and everything that happens to everyone. He flings himself to the extremes, while I tend to languish more close to ambivalence.<br /><br />I never cease to be amazed at the traits and characteristics of my family that surface in my son, or the aspects of his personality that are completely his own.<br /><br />It's fun, this Mommy gig.twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-7815329531322007602010-11-10T11:22:00.000-08:002010-11-10T13:38:44.786-08:00On Motherhood: Aging<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmdVh8XRaQI-CUTMTIM7xct5Ha_rDmz-BKUTjlQZpWDOe6gbOe44RnW2_Vbxm4m4Rj7mmdIgxoR_vflgnecYt0MPXCM4l-C2iJKGWgt3EOFD2eEjuROTT-SyslnnANtMdP9hBh3shj-rM/s1600/iotupan_galileo_big.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 296px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmdVh8XRaQI-CUTMTIM7xct5Ha_rDmz-BKUTjlQZpWDOe6gbOe44RnW2_Vbxm4m4Rj7mmdIgxoR_vflgnecYt0MPXCM4l-C2iJKGWgt3EOFD2eEjuROTT-SyslnnANtMdP9hBh3shj-rM/s320/iotupan_galileo_big.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5538005025774017778" border="0" /></a><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><br /><br /><br />What a pretty girl<br />the adults told me<br />what a smart girl<br />they said<br />their tongues honey’d<br />their eyes far-flung.<br /><br />What I wish they’d done<br />was held me up to a mirror<br />and touched my face<br />and told me to get used to this sight<br />these curves and planes<br />the only thing I trust<br /><br />and even it will eventually betray me.</div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-87511702986054522612010-11-05T09:22:00.000-07:002010-11-05T11:44:27.229-07:00On Motherhood: Milk & Ink is here!After months of diligent writing, reading, editing and listing, our book has been published and is available for purchase.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEig3_ftrKHT9q_-dXen0oeYwo9rEDySki40sW0fQ2iUAaFUJTpcwNiANASxAi8ETZsj1qsVov3m2TxTb6bZqJi3xAfJpuu_0HdAJlZlDaykmHA4ZGroc1baZvVinrvi1kXL33BgPIid_-E/s1600/milkandink+cover.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEig3_ftrKHT9q_-dXen0oeYwo9rEDySki40sW0fQ2iUAaFUJTpcwNiANASxAi8ETZsj1qsVov3m2TxTb6bZqJi3xAfJpuu_0HdAJlZlDaykmHA4ZGroc1baZvVinrvi1kXL33BgPIid_-E/s320/milkandink+cover.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5536138012634864610" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br />Approaching the authors and compiling work, reading through and deciding, then editing – the whole process was thrilling and overwhelming and exciting and wonderful, but we wound up with some of the best writing from women across the world, in all different ages and experiences. The work is edgy and honest and important – it covers topics from Asperger’s Syndrome to the death of a child to the first days as a new mother.<br /><br />Check out the official announcement at www.milkandink.com <a href="http://milkandink.com/milk-ink-a-mosaic-of-motherhood-is-here/">here </a><br /><br />Once you've checked out the website, you can order the book via Amazon <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Milk-Ink-Motherhood-Eros-Alegra-Clarke/dp/1432762451/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top">here </a><br /><br />Proceeds from book sales go to the charity <a href="http://www.mamahope.org/">Mama Hope </a><br /><br />Thank you in advance for your support - whether you buy the book for yourself, gifts for friends and/or family, or just tell others about Milk & Ink, we appreciate you.twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-67571978670146481232010-10-18T08:17:00.000-07:002010-10-18T08:33:41.245-07:00On the music of motherhoodThe drive home from a weekend in the Smokey Mountains yesterday was ideal: an empty blue bowl of sky, windows full of wind, an unspooling ribbon of road ahead of us. D was in the backseat, playing Kung Fu Panda on his V-Tech handheld, singing along to "Use Somebody" by Kings of Leon when the thought struck me that he will recall moments like this - cool air, car packed with Lightning McQueen and black leather overnight bags, a tattered turquoise tote brimming with books, folders, and my little laptop - and remember music by Kings of Leon, Dave Matthews Band, Pearl Jam and Eminem and associate that music with me the way I hear the Mamas and the Papas, Otis Redding, Ray Charles and Charlie Pride and think of my childhood, my father; I hear Elvis and immediately remember my mother's brown curls (only later did they brighten to blonde) and hear her singing "Blue Christmas" in a high warble as the days slid toward Christmas.<br /><br />Music draws memory, tapping the surface of our mind and pulling up thoughts like sunken debris from the sandy floor of the sea, sometimes glittering and bright, sometimes crusted and closed with age and denial. <br /><br />I hope the memories, the round full thoughts of me, my son has when he hears a certain "oldie" when he's a young man are bright, whole, and fill him with love and longing the way a string of excellent lyrics can, the swell of a hearty guitar riff. <br /><br />I hope when he hears "Use Somebody," some 20 years from now, he sees sunshine in my red hair as it lifts and dances across my shoulders, flicking into my mouth, wide and open in song, palms thumping on the steering wheel, and turning to grin to him, to tap his knee in time to the song, to clasp his small pudgy hand in my own and say to him "I love you. So, so much."<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6L72hoB_1wL6VCO1orT4qeIGRRIRis3xgjcU8AwRAy1VFluO6w6h46lUWM-IScErGnbERcxAqOq1OjpPKSqXYbn863rEtTUo-M4EDLFsPBl0vGwDx0GL8zjiBe1Ol4QntVkKx8oO9oXI/s1600/car.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6L72hoB_1wL6VCO1orT4qeIGRRIRis3xgjcU8AwRAy1VFluO6w6h46lUWM-IScErGnbERcxAqOq1OjpPKSqXYbn863rEtTUo-M4EDLFsPBl0vGwDx0GL8zjiBe1Ol4QntVkKx8oO9oXI/s320/car.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529409223989960402" /></a>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-4284805074665685352010-08-26T08:43:00.000-07:002010-08-26T08:58:06.817-07:00Short fiction: "Stella Tells the Truth"<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5ek4ISq1az-L9CI55ufdn2WqKh5xFEQ_vp1FsBkLts-YJNdYT_NPjOfct2_UlerdPmQYfjCMX1yio6RW4ZNmdNVb33tNfcorTBEsxCo4CL_ZXzh6xwdk2P_a3mCNFaZ8LwEiOE1YZxyE/s1600/writing.gif"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 242px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj5ek4ISq1az-L9CI55ufdn2WqKh5xFEQ_vp1FsBkLts-YJNdYT_NPjOfct2_UlerdPmQYfjCMX1yio6RW4ZNmdNVb33tNfcorTBEsxCo4CL_ZXzh6xwdk2P_a3mCNFaZ8LwEiOE1YZxyE/s320/writing.gif" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5509747628932083362" border="0" /></a>
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<br />When my sister graduated from college she moved right away all the way to California cause her boyfriend lived there. When she lived in California none of us talked about it. Daddy missed her an awful lot. He said it felt like someone had dimmed the lights. I may have been only nine but I sure know what he meant. He meant everythin wasn’t as fun as before, cause she lit everything up like a candle or a nightlight.
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<br />She left right after she graduated, and people always asked how is Phae and what's she studyin and we heard she Moved Away. Daddy’d just say she’s gone on out to California to live, she’s doin real well now, and how are you?
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<br />It was just awful sometimes with her gone. She’d go for days and days and not call, when Mama and Daddy were so used to talkin to her just about every day when she was in college. She was real good in college, she brought home great grades that made Daddy real proud, and Sissy still says to herself sometimes she doesn’t now how Phaedra did it, kept up such great grades and partyin all the time like she knew Phaedra did. Phaedra didn’t visit as much durin college as Sissy does, but when she did come home she was fussed over like you just don’t know. She was always real busy when she come home, always runnin here and there, visitin folks, her family and such. She was real popular.
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<br />She lived in California for years and years, and she could only visit on big Holidays but never Christmas. She wasn’t home for three Christmases, I counted. Everybody counted. She’d come home for Thanksgiving, but Christmas she had to spend with Jaacob out in California cause she didn’t want him to be alone on Christmas. His folks didn’t go out to see him. She said she couldn’t leave him alone like that.
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<br />Then one day Daddy called Mama at work and said Phaedra’s comin home. Mama came home and tole me and I just about burst with happiness. I was so happy I picked up Jasper and kissed her right on the mouth, even though she’s just a ole dog. Jasper was real happy too, and we danced around while Mama called and made some rangements. Her and Daddy would fly on out to California and just move Phaedra right on back home where she belonged.
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<br />I didn’t ask but I knew it was cause she and Jaacob had broken up again. They broke up lots of times, but I was accidentally on the phone this last time when Phaedra called Mama and was cryin, which just about broke my heart. I cried too, and hugged Jasper tight cause Phaedra’s voice didn’t sound right. She was cryin, but her voice was real calm and real still like when Miss Eileen reads somethin out loud she done read five times, but someone still don’t understand.
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<br />He’s already seeing someone else Kay, the flat Phaedra voice said. I knew I wasn’t sposed to be on the phone, so I snuggled down deeper neath my blankets. Freddy Teddy was lookin at me, and I put one finger over my mouth to show him be quiet.
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<br />Mama tole Phaedra there’s no sense in dwellin on it, to not worry bout him no more and try to keep goin. She said she knows it’s hard, specially after lovin for so long and movin so far for him. This was bout six weeks before Mama tole me Phaedra was movin on back home. I know cause we’d just gotten our report cards, and I got it again when she was back. I’d wanted her to look at it cause I got all A’s, like her, but she had been in bed for a coupla days and wouldn’t talk to no one but her skinny ole dog.
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<br />She wouldn’t even talk to Daddy hardly after she took to her bed, when she first come home. Sometimes I’d gather up some supper before I made my own plate, and I’d carry it on tiptoe to her room and knock real quiet on the door. Phae? I’d call real quiet. Phae you there? You hear me?
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<br />There wouldn’t be no sound atall, and I’d just leave the tray there and tiptoe off. Sometimes the next mornin the food’d be gone, and Mama’d go in there before she went to work and get the tray. Most times it’d just sit there though, and Phaedra was real skinny when she’d let me sneak in and lay with her under the covers. She only let me do that twice, I counted. I’m real quiet, but those times I’d be sittin outside her door, doin my homework, and she’d open the door just a crack and hiss at me like ole Miss Haber’s cat.
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<br />I jumped and stared at her with my mouth hung open. She looked somethin awful, with these big rings round her eyes and stringy hair. Which is a shame cause she got real pretty hair. But there she was, starin at me, and hissin for me to come in her room.
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<br />She slid neath those covers real easy like she might break somethin. She moved around like ole Miss Haber too, real stiff and lookin like she hurt all over. I had the flu once and I hurt all over and I moved like that. She held the edge of the blanket up so I could slip in beside her.
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<br />Her body was so hot. I curled up against her and started sweatin right off. And I could feel her bones through her pajamas, her body was long and hot. She started cryin, and she pushed her face against my neck and just cried and cried. I wondered was this what she did all the time here in her bed, just cry? Won’t she feel better iffen she talks about it?
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<br />There’s nothing to talk about, she said, and her words were thick with hurt. I started cryin too, just knowin how bad she hurt. I had always liked Jaacob, ‘cept when he made her cry like this. He’d always been real nice to me, brought me candy and stuff. I never did listen to the things Daddy’d say bout him, cause I knew if Phaedra loved him so much there had to be some good in him.
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<br />I asked her, under the covers, what had happened. Had he found another girlfriend he liked better or somethin? I was sweatin a lot now, but I was just so happy to actually see her. Even though she was livin neath the same roof, sometimes I felt like she was just a ghost passin through the house at night, cause that’s the only time she’d ever come out, iffen everyone was asleep and the house was quiet. But I asked her how he could ever find anyone prettier than her.
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<br />It wasn’t that simple, she tole me, and I remembered that word from my vocabulary list. Simple. Easy. And it wasn’t just him that was botherin her, there was other stuff. She owed a lot of money, she said, and she didn’t know how to pay it back. They took her car. They took her car.
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<br />Who took your car? I asked her but she was cryin again, and so I just hugged and hugged her, and let her cry all over me till Mama called me on to supper.
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<br />Mama who took Phae’s car? I asked Mama in the kitchen.
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<br />Mama looked over at me. Who told you that? Where you been? Her eyes looked up toward where Phae’s room is upstairs.
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<br />Some people took her car in California cause she couldn’t pay for it anymore, Stella. That’s what happens sometimes when you can’t pay for something anymore, the people you’re paying for it come and take it away.
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<br />It’s called Repossession, Daddy told me. I thought that word sounded like somethin out the Bible. He handed me a plate. But that doesn’t make Phaedra a bad person, Daddy said. These things happen.
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<br />I heard Daddy tell lots of people that. People came round to see Phae when she first moved home, and for a little while she’d come out to visit. Then one day she just took to her bed and wouldn’t come out.
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<br />It was after she’d been at her momma’s for a few days and she came home walkin like she was underwater and just sat right down in Daddy’s lap and started cryin like a baby. And her nearly 23 years old. Daddy got it out of her that Jaacob was getting married.
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<br />Mama was mad as fire. She thought about just getting on the phone right then and callin him and –
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<br />But Phaedra cried <span style="font-style: italic;">no no no no no</span>. I started shakin then and cryin too, cause she just looked so pitiful all piled up in Daddy’s lap and I wasn’t one bit jealous. She said she was glad for him, real glad that Jaacob’s happy, but it just hurt her so that she’d dated him for all those years and he didn’t want to marry her, but he takes up with this (she said the B word here) and all the sudden he’s getting married. It just made her feel so useless, so wretched. (I looked this word up in the Webster’s Dictionary at school and it means miserable and heartbroken. I’ve added it to my personal vocabulary list and have used it five times already.)
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<br />I crawled over to her dangling feet and hugged her round the knees. I tole her she wasn’t wretched at all, that she was lovely.
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<br />This was when she took to her bed, and that lasted about a week. She drank a lot of vodka during that time too. There were empty sticky glasses all over her room and some under her bed. I’d sneak in when she was asleep and get the glasses and put them in the dishwasher so Mama and Daddy wouldn’t see them. I know to rinse them out first. One time when I was gatherin all those sticky glasses up Phaedra woke up and saw me. I think she thought she was dreamin cause she started talkin real quiet, in a whisper that sounded to me like when babies can’t talk right yet, and they babble all the time.
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<br />Jus once I wish you knew how I felt, she said real quiet, and I knew she wasn’t talkin to me but to someone, probly Jaacob, that only she could see. Jus once I wish you knew how hard it was to be the person you thought I should be. But I couldn't. In the end I couldn't and you didn't want the real me, love the real me. And now I don't know who that is or was.
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<br />And then she got out of bed one day and she started writin. It got to where she wouldn't eat and would hardly sleep, and she was always scribblin like mad on her big notebook or typin away at Daddy’s computer. She’d type for hours, squintin at the screen, cryin sometimes and sometimes laughin out loud while tears ran down her face in black streaks into the corners of her mouth. This all scared me a little, cause I’d watch TV with her in the library and see her laughin out loud when nothin funny had happened on the TV. But she wasn’t watchin TV, she was writing.
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<br />She wrote and wrote, hours and hours, but sometimes she’d stop to help me with my homework. I asked her one day what she was doin, and she said <span style="font-style: italic;">Fulfilling Prophecy</span>. I said What? That’s when she looked at me right in the eye and I swear, I didn’t know who she was almost.
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<br />I’m <span style="font-style: italic;">writing</span>, she said. I’m a <span style="font-style: italic;">writer</span>, that’s what I <span style="font-style: italic;">do</span>. I have a degree in Creative Writing.
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<br />You’re a writer? I asked cause my math had been distractin me.
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<br />She looked real mad at that. She pushed some stuff around the desk and found a little card that had her name on it, her phone number and the word Writer. I looked from it to her. <span style="font-style: italic;">See?</span> She asked me real hot, her face red now. See that? I’m a writer. And you never knew, she said to me in a voice like Jasper when she doesn’t want to play dress-up any more. <span style="font-style: italic;">You never knew you never knew.</span>
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<br />After that I was kinda scared of her and wouldn’t watch TV with her while she was at the computer. She wrote for what seemed like years, then she started lookin all around for an Agent. She had this real thick stack of papers she kept mailin off to people, and most times they sent her a real thin letter and she’d either cry or get real mad and scream at everybody. She said she was smothering and she hated us all. She kicked Jasper one time then started cryin. I was getting real tired of her cryin and everyone else was too when she got a letter one day with a check and then she started screamin for real.
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<br />Things got lots better after that day. Phaedra said the check was an advance toward the rest of her book and she sent it right away off to pay for the car they took away from her. I don’t know why she had to pay for that car when it ain’t even hers any more, but I don’t ask questions bout stuff I don’t care to understand anyway. Anybody who’d take a car away from Phae, who’d take anything away from her, doesn’t know her anyway or they’d feel just awful to hurt her like that.
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<br />She flew off to New York City one day even though Mama begged and begged her not to after September eleventh. Phaedra said no terrorist was gonna keep her from realizin her dream. She had bigger fish to fry than some sorry ole Bin Laden. I was so afraid for her that I cried real hard when we watched her plane take off, headin up north to New York where it all happened. Daddy kept watchin the news and called her twice a day.
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<br />She stayed almost two weeks, but her hotel room was paid for by the people buyin her book. She had a real good time, and she brought me some neat toys and some matches from places she went to eat at. I like to roll the names of the restaurants around in my mouth and imagine how fancy they are compared to their names: <span style="font-style: italic;">The Russian Tea Room, The Plaza, The Moroccan Suite, Denial.</span><span style="font-size:100%;"><span style=";font-family:georgia;font-size:10;color:black;" ></span></span>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-35278340905949595692010-08-10T07:20:00.000-07:002010-08-10T07:27:03.440-07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizbcCVclPkK-RP9fPTtR_RlF64yJUVLr0_5-WZNous3Rxw9X-rC82YuztF5CXAGIfsqNZq0a1vjOqV-QwptQm2NxaqLZWcuIbDsq3aCrRCTz3p7APkUZylh99vX-NuxNfeQpXUkNVK_QI/s1600/Garonne.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEizbcCVclPkK-RP9fPTtR_RlF64yJUVLr0_5-WZNous3Rxw9X-rC82YuztF5CXAGIfsqNZq0a1vjOqV-QwptQm2NxaqLZWcuIbDsq3aCrRCTz3p7APkUZylh99vX-NuxNfeQpXUkNVK_QI/s320/Garonne.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5503786644327278466" border="0" /></a>
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<br />Head down, I had just turned the corner from Rue Marchetonto onto Route de Castelsarrasin with MIKA’s “Lollipop” blaring in my ears when I saw the blood.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">
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<br />I stopped, nearly stumbling, and glanced ahead. Against the morning glaring sun the rest of our group continued up the hill, toward the clock tower. I looked back down where, a few steps later, the dark red spots splattered against the ancient rock wall, curving up the hill toward the heart of Auvillar. The trail continued, weaving from the wall on my left onto the curb on my right until, almost at the next corner, it exploded in a violent bloom on the wall of a corner house.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">
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<br />I plucked the earbud out and squinted up at the receding backs of the other poets, frowned at the wall. Three white tissues heavy with drying blood led me to the corner of the street, where another firework explosion of blood, brighter red here, stained the street and trailed in droplets to the door of the corner house.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">
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<br />Sunlight hot and insistent in my hair, I nudged another tissue, this one soaked nearly brown and heavy in the gutter, with the toe of my flip flop. Glancing up, I saw John had paused, his profile sharp against the sky a blue only to be found in Southern France, waiting for me. He lifted his hand, and I tripped on up the hill.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">
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<br />In our poetry workshop that day I didn't write about blood, but about my thoughts sifting on the breeze along the banks of the Garonne, Drifting white puffs that catch in window screens across the French countryside:</span> <div style="text-align: center; font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-family:georgia;">
<br /></span><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5Cgraphics%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C05%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal">"Walking to the water"</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">At first I feared my thoughts had fled – </p> <p class="MsoNormal">white puffs on air</p> <p class="MsoNormal">wafting over water.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Glancing about, I saw my dreams,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">these white floating sifting things,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">and fought the urge to catch them</p> <p class="MsoNormal">pluck them off the breeze,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">this need to gather</p> <p class="MsoNormal">my ideas of air.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">But no, Darren says,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">it’s cottonwood seed.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">French farmers cut it down,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">it gets caught in screens,</p> <p class="MsoNormal">angers their wives.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">I worried my thoughts would weave </p> <p class="MsoNormal">into window screens</p> <p class="MsoNormal">splayed for a French wife</p> <p class="MsoNormal">to frown at and complain</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">My dreams and ideas</p> <p class="MsoNormal">spun out cotton</p> <p class="MsoNormal">spread thin</p> <p class="MsoNormal">for the world to run through their fingers.</p><p class="MsoNormal">
<br /></p> <span style="font-family:georgia;"></span> </div> <span style="font-family:georgia;">We never found out where the blood came from - or who it came from. The next day it had been scrubbed away, so we made up our own stories about it, discussed, dissected, wondered, our conversations wafting out from the patio of our gite, bubbling into the night air and mingling with the songs of French frogs, dissolving into summer: mid May in Auvillar.</span>
<br />twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-38807573236265831732010-07-30T10:46:00.000-07:002010-07-30T10:46:00.382-07:00Pen and Palette: (Authors') Dutch Lunch in NashvilleA great blog about a very special lunch I was lucky enough to attend yesterday - what a fabulous time with some talented people!<br /><br /><a href="http://wwwpenandpalette-susancushman.blogspot.com/2010/07/authors-dutch-lunch-in-nashville.html">Pen and Palette: (Authors') Dutch Lunch in Nashville</a>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-28925781522879205532010-07-22T10:08:00.000-07:002010-07-22T10:13:54.328-07:00On Mayhem: Roses of Auvillar, a poemAuvillar, France is smothered in roses. They are <span style="font-style: italic;">everywhere</span>, which for someone who adores flowers as much as I do is heavenly. The scent, the sudden bursts of multi-faceted color, and the silk of their petals against my skin like a kiss.<br /><br />While sifting through some writing materials last night I found a notepad used to jot down images, thoughts, and sensory input as prescribed by our poetry workshop leader, Marilyn Kallet.<br /><br />The following poem were scribbled hastily, and I suspect while walking uphill back into Auvillar Old Town.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">Crushed rose petals<br />On cobblestones worn<br />by parading pilgrim feet<br />sun no shade<br />Sunday afternoon, late, in Auvillar<br /></div><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivxiuRUftLDlcDFF8_QVQqhWPFs2KJMwcnxg0MDmXo_zTpncuEAVoNE04eW44C7ZFnI7goZJOMuoNXWfnBb_cEIAC8ELCg4m30MbSmZ33UIHfgEA8-FpG_gX-cRnTCeXHs1feHOm2krDM/s1600/CIMG3613.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivxiuRUftLDlcDFF8_QVQqhWPFs2KJMwcnxg0MDmXo_zTpncuEAVoNE04eW44C7ZFnI7goZJOMuoNXWfnBb_cEIAC8ELCg4m30MbSmZ33UIHfgEA8-FpG_gX-cRnTCeXHs1feHOm2krDM/s320/CIMG3613.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5496779699292820834" border="0" /></a>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-33814620594001971052010-07-15T12:37:00.000-07:002010-07-15T12:47:52.480-07:00On Media: A book review of Dying Light by D. Scott Meek<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://i985.photobucket.com/albums/ae331/dsmeek36/Dying%20Light/dlposter.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 210px; height: 320px;" src="http://i985.photobucket.com/albums/ae331/dsmeek36/Dying%20Light/dlposter.jpg" alt="" border="0" /></a>
<br /><meta equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8"><meta name="ProgId" content="Word.Document"><meta name="Generator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><meta name="Originator" content="Microsoft Word 11"><link rel="File-List" href="file:///C:%5CDOCUME%7E1%5Cgraphics%5CLOCALS%7E1%5CTemp%5Cmsohtml1%5C02%5Cclip_filelist.xml"><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> <w:wraptextwithpunct/> <w:useasianbreakrules/> <w:dontgrowautofit/> </w:Compatibility> <w:browserlevel>MicrosoftInternetExplorer4</w:BrowserLevel> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:latentstyles deflockedstate="false" latentstylecount="156"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--><style> <!-- /* Style Definitions */ p.MsoNormal, li.MsoNormal, div.MsoNormal {mso-style-parent:""; margin:0in; margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:12.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";} @page Section1 {size:8.5in 11.0in; margin:1.0in 1.25in 1.0in 1.25in; mso-header-margin:.5in; mso-footer-margin:.5in; mso-paper-source:0;} div.Section1 {page:Section1;} --> </style><!--[if gte mso 10]> <style> /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0in 5.4pt 0in 5.4pt; mso-para-margin:0in; mso-para-margin-bottom:.0001pt; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:10.0pt; font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-ansi-language:#0400; mso-fareast-language:#0400; mso-bidi-language:#0400;} </style> <![endif]--> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">
<br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Let’s face it: you can’t swing a bat without hitting a book about vampires these days. </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">They’re everywhere – vampires glittering and sulking, staking and loving and enduring their forever lives. But in <i style="">Dying Light</i> by D. Scott Meek, vampires are doing something quite original and captivating: they are living among us humans side by side, working, healing, moving day by day in a future that is bleak and uncertain.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Meek’s vampires – a lot cursed by a viral epidemic that swept the Earth centuries before – walk among mortals blue-eyed and stealthy, working side by side in hospitals and offices in what was once the nation’s Capital and is now a den of corruption and rubble from wars of the distant past.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Meek’s writing style is immediately accessible, his characters sympathetic and interesting – especially the vampires, who are more fleshed out here than the mortals. These are vampires to take notice of, full of rage and loneliness and sadness and sexual deviancy. Their blues aren’t the only way they stand out in a crowd.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">And such as in other vampire tales in <i style="">Dying Light</i> there is a battle, but it, again, is not your typical blood-thirsty war – it doesn’t suck. This psychological thriller - this puzzle of who is really on who’s side, who wants to change and who wants to die - is more of a puzzle to unravel slowly (and flip back pages to search, hungrily, for clues) and follow to its climax… which may or may not involve a certain, very interesting, chair.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent: 0.5in;">For an intelligent take on a vamp tale take on Meek’s <i style="">Dying Light</i>. And keep at least one light burning through the night.</p> twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-58097010268669991732010-07-09T14:10:00.000-07:002010-07-09T14:34:12.432-07:00On Motherhood: To moo or not to mooThe sign on the door read: Pick up 3 items to dress like a cow and get FREE food at Chik-Fil-A! Wear a hat: get a free sandwich - Entire outfit: free COMBO!<br /><br />"Cool," I said, and opened the door.<br /><br />I signed The Dude out of day camp and picked up a cardboard cow hat, half of what looked like a sandwich board scrawled with "Eat Mor Chikin" and a slick of stickers. One of the camp counselors explained that the stickers could go on a T-shirt, and all together The Dude would get a free meal the next day, the same day the whole camp would spend at Pump It Up, a facility in Mt. Juliet filled with those huge inflatables for bouncing, jarring teeth, stepping on body extremities and eventual vomiting, in my experience.<br /><br />"So," I said, herding him into the car, "tomorrow you dress like a cow and bounce around in overpriced rubber apparatus, that about right?"<br /><br />"Sounds right," he agreed.<br /><br />Unsure of anything related to the clothing or costuming of small children, I called my stepmother to see where to buy plain white T shirts. Turns out they are sold by the pack at Wal-Mart, Target, etc.<br /><br />$50 later, we get the shirts and head home. This morning I lay out a plain white Hanes T and D gets to work with the stickers. We decorate a hat, we paste black stickers on his shorts. He is all cow'd up, mooing all the way to camp.<br /><br />When we pull up to the building, we see a girl in the obligatory bright yellow T shirt of Field Trip day. I frown. Glancing in the mirror, I see D is frowning. I get out of the car, round the trunk, eyeing the window. More yellow-clad kids. I curse beneath my breath.<br /><br />D hops out of the car, takes one look at the building and snatches the cow hat off his head, pushes it at me.<br /><br />"They're wearing yellow," he says.<br /><br />I swallow. "Yeah. Maybe... maybe we should have packed your field trip shirt as your extra shirt in your backpack."<br /><br />He tosses a scowl over his shoulder as he climbs the stairs to the front door. "Yeah. Maybe, mom."<br /><br />Inside is a sea of yellow. My heart thuds, and D walks into the room, awash in the sunshine of field trip shirts, a white beacon in spotted shorts sifting through the kids. Dejectedly, I hang his backpack on the coatrack on one wall.<br /><br />"Yeah," one counselor says, moving toward me, "they're not <span style="font-style: italic;">actually</span> going to eat at Chik-Fil-A today."<br /><br />Because this is a church-based camp and school, I reign myself in. "Then <span style="font-style: italic;">why</span> did the <span style="font-style: italic;">note</span> say for him to <span style="font-style: italic;">dress</span> like a <span style="font-style: italic;">cow</span>?"<br /><br />D, his back glaring white among his yellow friends, casts another look over his shoulder which, if they could kill, would have nailed him for matricide.<br /><br />"Some of the parents thought that," the dewy-faced counselor said.<br /><br />I bare my teeth at her. "And <span style="font-style: italic;">yet</span> none of the other kids are dressed like a <span style="font-style: italic;">cow</span>."<br /><br />"I know," she showed me her braces. "It was a misunderstanding."<br /><br />I squeezed the bridge of my nose between two fingers, glad to have job where it's okay to have these things happen: I can drive the 20 minutes back home, grab the yellow field trip shirt and pack a lunch, and drive the 20 minutes back and hopefully be back in time to catch them before they leave for the field trip.<br /><br />When I return, with literally minutes to spare, D is on the playground, his white T shirt filthy and missing its bovine black spots. I offer the Marvel Comics 3D lunch bag and yellow shirt, which he refuses to take.<br /><br />I lean toward him, ignoring the camp counselor who has accompanied him to the playground gate. "You want to change now, sweetie? You can just change and I'll -"<br /><br />"No," he says firmly without meeting my eye. "Later."<br /><br />I shrug and back away. "Okay... well then, have a good day, sorry about the cow thing."<br /><br />He raises his face and moos at me. "From the only cow in the yard," he says, smiles, and runs away.twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-4251701300004151702010-06-17T14:18:00.000-07:002010-06-17T14:23:37.345-07:00<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2T5oWsO3OiIlMdurHIUO6ED7IsJ1nSAVS8VfhZ-mI1L0BijpRNFNlYIaa0hM7ugqcBHgwlatoZgRFC0R7R3eNSN2O7eJrSEvMQqetE1jhJSXocZndQwVhIYtZFxBwPaP9evsfZ0KwDe8/s1600/hand.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 240px; height: 199px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj2T5oWsO3OiIlMdurHIUO6ED7IsJ1nSAVS8VfhZ-mI1L0BijpRNFNlYIaa0hM7ugqcBHgwlatoZgRFC0R7R3eNSN2O7eJrSEvMQqetE1jhJSXocZndQwVhIYtZFxBwPaP9evsfZ0KwDe8/s320/hand.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483856325109659794" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family:georgia;"><br /><br />I know a girl </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">who spends all day Sunday praying.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">All day, I repeat.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">Yes, all day, she says. In meetin all day, we pray.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">I can’t think of what to say</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">to that.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">I wonder what she prays about.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">I blink at her. </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">All day, you meet and you pray.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">She nods, and I wonder </span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">what she has lost to make her pray that way.</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">And in the black</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">without reaching or breathing or knowing</span> <span style="font-family:georgia;">I let you go.</span></div>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-54490610719506784282010-05-28T07:58:00.000-07:002010-05-28T08:01:25.710-07:00On Auvillar: IntroductionMonday night I returned to Tennessee from a 10-day stay in France, and while I had an amazing time (physical traveling including planes and trains – yikes!) I was very, very glad to be home. I was especially glad to return to Mt. Juliet: I missed my friends and co-workers, the people who surround and lift me daily, to whom I turn and confide.<br /><br />I was startled and surprised to find that the people in France, especially in Paris, were very friendly and helpful: from the Delta employees at the Charles de Gaulle airport to waiters in Paris and people in Metro (subway) tunnels, almost everyone was willing to assist a fumbling American struggling with rushing crowds and a very tentative grasp on the French language. There is a stereotype, I think, that Americans have about the French: there were many “frog” and smelly Frenchmen jokes posted on Facebook and in emails to me, but the truth is (and thanks to the Eyewitness Travel France guidebook for the tip) if you smile, say “Bonjour!” and are friendly immediately when you approach someone, 90 percent of the time that person will smile and help. Or at least try. Because French doesn’t sound nearly so lovely (or coherent) when it’s tainted by a Tennessee twang.<br /><br />One major thing I learned while in France is tolerance: not being able to communicate with everyone around you because you can’t speak their language (in their home country) is frustrating and at times quite scary. While I agree that if a person is going to move to a different country they should at least try to learn the native tongue, those visiting should be treated with patience and kindness. As a tired but persistent to see the sights, non-French speaking American who was treated almost consistently with patience and kindness, I now know that sort of karma can come back to you both ways.<br /><br />Something else I learned while away is that it is self-indulgent and easy to take your friends and family for granted, especially those you see on a regular basis. I missed my family terribly, but I also missed my friends and coworkers. I was flung out into the world, away from my support system and comfort zone, and while it became less difficult every day I still struggled. I couldn’t think about my 4-year old son for more than a moment without my throat closing up, and I found myself constantly wanting to call or text my friends to describe the slant of light on the roses of Auvillar or the cute Parisian couple with no regards to the restraints of public displays of affection.<br /><br /><br />But most importantly, I learned that I am stronger than I thought. I traveled internationally (flying stand-by at that) by myself, and while it was definitely scary (the TGV European train system takes some study and swift feet) traipsing through airports and gasping at the Eiffel Tower sparkling like lit jewels in the black Parisian sky on my own was liberating and fulfilling. I am resilient and adaptable and calm in stressful situations. I learned a lot about travel and French culture (and wine and cheese and bread, oh my!), but I also learned a lot about myself. I learned to slow down, and listen, and breathe. I learned to linger with the sun in my hair instead of cursing that there aren’t enough hours in the day.<br /><br />I learned to live, not just make it through each day.twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-22704431512448701232010-04-16T07:52:00.000-07:002010-04-16T08:10:03.588-07:00On Motherhood: SpongeBob & Burger King - full circle<span style="font-weight:bold;">Editor's Note: This is an old blog from my Myspace days. (Don't snicker, there <span style="font-weight:bold;">was<span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span> social media obsessive distraction before Facebook.) I was cruising through my old blogs, and I thought it'd be interesting to see what I was blogging about this at time two or three years ago.<br /><br /><br />In April of 2007 Draper was 18 months old and I was still working for the State of TN. I was miserable there by the end, and I started at <span style="font-style:italic;">The Chronicle</span> just two months after I wrote this blog. This one doesn't talk much about how much I hated that job by the end - that subject is reserved for the blog before this one, and it is cratered with the blasts of F bombs. This one's better, I think, and funny and relevant because, lo and behold, SpongeBob is back at Burger King now, and Draper already has three of the watches. And his language and vocabulary skills are much, much better now (god help us all).</span><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvoBlyZ_36wkO0A4_GuhLFKzWcKpcNA1Vmep0aQKQZRpPyrMEk-jXhpr0P2QHQ6oJtHBvH-odjGyoO4WtS2lk5_gorNixz0E6M0lYl30G2whiXP5RjKdAf2gTd7cgwcld-XLKNURQY1MQ/s1600/DSC00382.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhvoBlyZ_36wkO0A4_GuhLFKzWcKpcNA1Vmep0aQKQZRpPyrMEk-jXhpr0P2QHQ6oJtHBvH-odjGyoO4WtS2lk5_gorNixz0E6M0lYl30G2whiXP5RjKdAf2gTd7cgwcld-XLKNURQY1MQ/s320/DSC00382.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5460752024229598946" /></a> <br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">While at the beach just a few months after the blog below was written, in between the State job and starting at The Chronicle.</span><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />April 17, 2007<br />Burger King is corruptive<br />Current mood: amused<br />Category: Life<br /><br />There's this new TV commerical that promotes a new line of Sponge Bob Square Pants toys at Burger King. My son, 18 months, is obsessed with Sponge Bob right now, even though, to my knowledge, he has never seen the show. Thinking it was bright and colorful (and cheap - I mean, why buy clothes for a toddler who doesn't know how badly pizza and mustard stain clothes?), my mother bought him a SB T-shirt which, given the chance, Draper will wear every day. Thus followed a SB doll and pillow case, which must be in his crib before he will enter it.<br /><br />The commercial begins with two kids exclaiming the fact that SB is now at Burger King. A mother and father are in the bathroom when this announcement is made, and the dad is in the bathtub, fondling a large yellow (somewhat realistic) sea sponge. The dad stands up and asks, "Honey, who am I?"<br /><br />Of course she stares at him, incredulous, wondering why the hell she married this goof who takes baths in the first place.<br /><br />He puts the sponge on his head and stands up, covered, conveniently, in bubbles. "Sponge Bob no pants," he cries.<br /><br />Draper turned from the TV and looked at me. "Mama."<br /><br />I raised my eyebrows.<br /><br />"Mama."<br /><br />I shook my head. "No."<br /><br />He walked toward me, palms up. "Mama. Bob-bob."<br /><br />I sighed. "No, Drape."<br /><br />He touched my knee. "Mama. Bob-bob no paz."<br /><br />I put down my magazine. "Draper. It's an ad."<br /><br />Draper cocked his head and gave me a look that mirrors my own when I'm dealing with someone who simply doesn't see things my way. "Mama. Bob-bob no paz."<br /><br />Note to self: boycott Burger King.twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-7279230528670401402010-03-04T07:39:00.000-08:002010-03-04T08:37:59.233-08:00On Mayhem: Getting DumpedI was minding my own business: I was asleep, actually. <span style="font-style:italic;">Sound</span> asleep. The kind of asleep that covers you more completely than your own blanket, that coaxes you deep down into a dark you weren't even aware you had in you. <br /><br />But still, I dream. I almost always dream. And last night I was dreaming about glaciers cracking, huge great white/blue chunks of glowing ice floating, breaking apart with a resonating <span style="font-weight:bold;">crack<span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span> I could feel in my bones, crunch between my teeth.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4MfO9-QqYI5y-s7GQAKrG0cX_dSnlIScrD-Ym1uroBM-jHQL9IDe6PABL1S1Axc3WVOpT042AtNLi3VZBi9T0yPTtL_82w8RF6n5GDRR1DQ2gTYda9HAAl4cqVEfWCx9nRmLTxS8Njz0/s1600-h/glacier.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4MfO9-QqYI5y-s7GQAKrG0cX_dSnlIScrD-Ym1uroBM-jHQL9IDe6PABL1S1Axc3WVOpT042AtNLi3VZBi9T0yPTtL_82w8RF6n5GDRR1DQ2gTYda9HAAl4cqVEfWCx9nRmLTxS8Njz0/s320/glacier.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5444805190038415842" /></a><br /><br />Then I was sliding, having lost my footing atop the glacier, slipping, struggling to find a hold, anything, scrambling. I began to slip, to dangle, white rushing water filling the cracks of the splitting iceberg, rising as I slid, shaved ice shoved beneath my fingernails as I scrabbled for hold.<br /><br />Just as sometimes we dream of falling and jerk awake just before we hit the ground (for me those dreams often involve someone's front porch, peeling white floorboards, and falling down the steps, I don't know the origin of that recurring image and am afraid to ask), I awoke to a startled cry, jerking myself awake just as I actually hit the floor. Blinking, I looked up to see Whitman, my chubby little Maltese puppy, blinking sleepily down at me from the narrow antique bed in our playroom.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRkGSVdrolXQsUn7qxud083gZ77N0LXFRsmM1A4vUm5RNQLRF3yk_jeVDFUDTM7Twwe6CglLp2ptf1eXmrVTmPJOEpaa05IYcUW9oJGDO71V2642XCHPiIJn0OANaPzzUHhXm7_DRy_zQ/s1600-h/photo.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhRkGSVdrolXQsUn7qxud083gZ77N0LXFRsmM1A4vUm5RNQLRF3yk_jeVDFUDTM7Twwe6CglLp2ptf1eXmrVTmPJOEpaa05IYcUW9oJGDO71V2642XCHPiIJn0OANaPzzUHhXm7_DRy_zQ/s320/photo.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5444807644879271634" /></a><br /><br />I sat up, only to knock my head against the underside of the tanning bed we use to fold/store clean clothes and blankets. I realized that the startled cry had come from me, and that I had slipped out of the bed - but had I jerked so hard from a falling dream (<span style="font-style:italic;">what</span> had I been dreaming about again? and why was I so <span style="font-style:italic;">cold</span>?)that I had jerked myself right out of bed? Even for me, that's one hell of a dream.<br /><br />Rubbing my forehead I struggled to my knees and turned to look at the bed. Through the dim I saw that a corner of the head of the bed had... fallen. The bed sank at one corner, inexplicably. I crawled forward and touched the underside of the bed frame - so old that even my mother doesn't know its true age, and I have no memories of my childhood home where this bed was not prominently displayed in what my mother called "the antique room." <br /><br />Puzzled, I gingerly ran my hands along the frame, fearing splinters but feeling nothing. I patted around on the floor for my glasses (I don't know why, I always place them on the bedside table and they wouldn't be on the floor, but I was still half asleep and dazed and didn't think <span style="font-style:italic;">I</span> would be on the floor, either). I am legally blind, meaning that without my glasses or contacts the world is a fuzzy mess of dull colors and shifting blobs. I have become familiar enough in the house to make very simple trips without ocular aid (from my bed to my attached bathroom in my bedroom, from my bed to the kitchen for the big white blob that is the constant gallon of milk in the fridge, an almost nightly pilgrimage for me) but with the scattered throw pillows, the tangle of blanket and Whitman whining, still aloft on the bed above me, I wasn't comfortable enough to access the situation without my glasses. They were nowhere to be found. (I found them in the morning light right on the table, where I had placed them, on top of one of my grandmother's Bibles.)<br /><br />I gave up on the investigation of the broken bed (what had I been <span style="font-style:italic;">doing</span> in my sleep?) and decided to try sleeping on the couch, near the bed. (Why doesn't she just go to her bedroom, you may be asking yourself, and that is a fair question. I didn't go to my bedroom, and my own bed, because there were no sheets on my bed. I had stripped them that morning to be washed and hadn't put any more on yet. I was distracted by supper and then American Idol. I'm easily distracted.)<br /><br />The couch, while comfortable enough for sitting, is hell to sleep on. It is old, worn, sinks in the middle and has a sucking quality which, if you're not careful, will cause you to wake up with one arm tangled among the coiled springs of the ancient monster. After padding the couch with every available pillow and getting Whitman settled back into his sleeping spot behind my curled knees, I tossed and turned for approximately 1,400 hours. Agony. I chased sleep, scrambling on its heels, for what felt like forever. (It was most likely about 20 minutes.) <br /><br />Finally I gave up on the couch and decided to try the bed - only <span style="font-style:italic;">this</span> time I'd outsmart it. (Keep in mind, this is at around 3 a.m. No one is at their logical best at 3 a.m.) I would sleep with my head at the <span style="font-style:italic;">foot</span> of the bed. HA! Take that, collapsing bed!<br /><br />This, of course, was something like trying to sleep while sliding down an incline: I found myself holding on to the footboard in my dozy haze, trying to keep from sliding down to the foot of the bed, where half the mattress was now nearly on the floor. I woke up from a light doze once with my arms flung over the footboard, my elbows hooked, basically holding on in my sleep, with Whitman curled around the top of my head to keep from sliding onto the floor.<br /><br />I raised up and looked at him, nose to nose. <br /><br />"This isn't working," I told him. I could swear he rolled his eyes.<br /><br />So I picked up my puppy, my pillow, my blanket and my phone and we trooped to the other end of the house (me feeling the way along walls and bumping into chairs and other random obstacles along the way) to my bedroom, where I flopped onto my bed, never more grateful for it, sheets or no sheets.<br /><br />This morning I tried to explain what happened in the night to The Dude, who stood at the doorway to the playroom, looking down at the broken bed, which I had already made back up.<br /><br />"It looks fine to me," he said skeptically, scratching at his thigh clad in Spiderman pajama pants. He glanced at me. "Are you all right?"<br /><br />"No I'm not all right! I had to hang on for dear life, and it was cold!" <br /><br />He shut the door, shaking his head. <br /><br />"It's time for my breakfast, Mom."<br /><br />I dropped the gallon of milk on the kitchen counter and looked at him. "I don't think you appreciate the gravity of the situation."<br /><br />He frowned and sat on the edge of the little blue rocking recliner we keep in the kitchen. "The what?"<br /><br />"The gravity of the situation."<br /><br />He nodded. "Isn't that... what holds stuff down? Gravity?"<br /><br />I blinked.<br /><br />"That's funny," he smiled up at me. "That's what holds stuff down and made you fall out of bed. Gravity." He chuckled.<br /><br />"You're hilarious," I told him, turning so he coudln't see me smile. "Now what do you want for breakfast?"twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4548974679467181734.post-61129962011291692092010-01-27T12:44:00.000-08:002010-01-27T14:40:43.108-08:00On Mayhem: WE'RE ALL GONNA DIEDon't get me wrong: I love Middle Tennessee. I love the gorgeous hills,<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJ56QZ50P3IX0q3UmqhVVh4wxQhLLQNrokMtcBn8jYlQTFndsZ71Ma379IhABM-IqrEIcGJyEPOdj_yeVXjmz21IeVgRNVCRaNWC23uRoeb97RCAJLvOts6-3RAZT8HD12QzKbmpDv7pA/s1600-h/hills.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJ56QZ50P3IX0q3UmqhVVh4wxQhLLQNrokMtcBn8jYlQTFndsZ71Ma379IhABM-IqrEIcGJyEPOdj_yeVXjmz21IeVgRNVCRaNWC23uRoeb97RCAJLvOts6-3RAZT8HD12QzKbmpDv7pA/s320/hills.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5431544713074892978" /></a><br /><br />I love the people,<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2jdXcGH-IgoC3_V1KnnDJmnjCiN5XCXVELsTZUBcbRJBqnJX709lnsNdNCN6Iw9tl3qF0wBcBLF6fzTnWllFFb06BVrf68wUVuOwrOm854i3Cq4B_h-prK6I6RVMFqDOYmuYv7aNmrQ4/s1600-h/all+3.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2jdXcGH-IgoC3_V1KnnDJmnjCiN5XCXVELsTZUBcbRJBqnJX709lnsNdNCN6Iw9tl3qF0wBcBLF6fzTnWllFFb06BVrf68wUVuOwrOm854i3Cq4B_h-prK6I6RVMFqDOYmuYv7aNmrQ4/s320/all+3.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5431545342019083858" /></a><br /><br />And, normally, I love the weather. Very temperate, and we have actual seasons, unlike when I lived in South Florida and it was just <span style="font-style:italic;">hot</span> all the damn time.<br /><br />But here's the thing about Middle Tennessee people and weather: we can't handle snow. Especially when you combine snow and ice. Snow and ice and schools. We close school if someone is overheard in a grocery store aisle saying that it was icy and there was light snow when they visited Aunt Marsha in Minnesota last week. BECAUSE IT MIGHT COME HERE! THE WEATHER MIGHT DRIFT HERE AND IT MIGHT SNOW AND WE'RE ALL GONNA DIE!<br /><br />But we don't die. No, we cancel school three days before the "winter event" gets here, we go to the grocery and buy ALL of the milk and ALL of the bread. And maybe some shrimp cocktail and batteries, just in case.<br /><br />And this happens every time. <span style="font-style:italic;">Every</span> single time. And trust me, I like snow. A lot. I like how everything looks so clean and stark on a snowy morning. And we don't get enough snow here to take it for granted. But the weather people on TV start predicting it <span style="font-style:italic;">days</span> in advance, and so we have to wait and see. And it's all anybody can talk about: the SNOW, when is the SNOW coming, how much will it SNOW, will they cancel school (yes), how many days will we be SNOWED IN? Stranded! Trapped in our homes! <span style="font-style:italic;">Thank God for the shrimp and batteries!<br /></span><br /><br />So here's what I propose: calm down, people of Middle Tennessee. Even if it <span style="font-style:italic;">does</span> snow (and we all know that when you discuss it to death, and when the weathermen actually <span style="font-style:italic;">predict</span> it, it rarely happens, we <span style="font-style:italic;">know</span> this) then just don't get out and drive in it unless you have to, because if there's anything worse than Middle Tennesseans freaking out about snow it's them attempting to <span style="font-style:italic;">drive</span> in it. Stay home, curl up with your kids or loved ones or pets, and relax. Spend some time together. <span style="font-style:italic;">Talk</span> to each other. Play games, cook a meal together, watch a movie.<br /><br />Snow days, I think, are the perfect excuse to do nothing but chill. Seems appropriate, don't you think?<br /><br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheE1YmO4w83ATd8qL1fUGgBH4XYobdcJ4nGyePOh-EPWZBPzK8ioDgwhk4ZDislWDoNXCGJBaEH3MJIlD1p4pbJ4rsZBkQfirE3L01Ht9YaaDGjn6fsQBec0pwrsoR-9iTpBHIe_g0CRo/s1600-h/Drape+and+Tomi+cropped.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 211px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEheE1YmO4w83ATd8qL1fUGgBH4XYobdcJ4nGyePOh-EPWZBPzK8ioDgwhk4ZDislWDoNXCGJBaEH3MJIlD1p4pbJ4rsZBkQfirE3L01Ht9YaaDGjn6fsQBec0pwrsoR-9iTpBHIe_g0CRo/s320/Drape+and+Tomi+cropped.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5431553178053322130" /></a>twileyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08623636961184930513noreply@blogger.com3